Obviously it’s been a rough year for me. It has been a rough year for anyone that gives a damn about me. There is a story I really haven’t shared about this journey. Let’s start there.
Reading an article in Rolling Stone about Tom Gabel (The last time I will ever type that name) made me cry. The article was about the music and her journey coming out. I related to a lot of Against Me! Lyrically, I understood that journey. Never knew why. Until I read that article almost 2 years ago. My jaw dropped… every lyric I related to, suddenly made sense!
Here is the link to those that never read it! http://www.rollingstone.com/music/news/the-secret-life-of-transgender-rocker-tom-gabel-20120531
I feared for her! Her career! I thought it was so beautiful and so awesome! I kept thinking I wish I could do that. Went back to a lot of her albums just listening! Enjoying it, and praying things would work out in her career! This was awesome! I was so excited for her, but didn’t have anyone I could tell, someone might find out about me if I shared my joy for her!
I kind of lived off of those old albums, and started hunting down info. My longtime relationship ended. I was so far out there, and trying to find myself. Exciting, and horrible time for me. Laura Jane had pushed a button…. and I knew. I just fucking knew. Started sharing a few trans timelines with a friend or two… no one would even talk about it. Looking back, I am sure they knew about me, but would not speak of it.
Trying to dry out and figure out my isolation led me into more suicide, as you all now… that’s not this story. So, I came out, at the same time, Laura Jane finally started to talk some more, a few more videos of her started to surface, Looking back, I dug for some stuff for a minute, and realize just how long her journey took! I am living it now!!
Eventually, probably my favorite album of all time came out. Transgender Dysphoria Blues. It is full of triggers for me. It is however so big. Big loud and honest. I fell in love with it, and knew most of it before it was released, due to Laura’s endless touring, hard work, and of course all of those around her making her dream come true!!!
Well, Laura and her amazing team came through indy. My best friend, and guardian angel made sure I was there. She took care of me all weekend, and just made sure I was having fun!
Friday night, I got off work, had a job interview… I don’t even really care about pay, this about me connecting. The interview went amazing. I was shocked at the result… I was late though. Eventually met up with my pal, and went to get beer and wings. Smiles, stories, and just excitement.
Slept in on Saturday. That was awesome. We both needed it. Decided I was going to play a horrible joke. Went golfing for a few, and went in boy mode. I told her we were heading out and to grab the tickets. I was in pants and a hockey jersey!! The fear was in her eyes! So respectful though!! We went for more beer and good food after hitting some golf balls around (horribly), and finally I told her I had to go home before going to indy. Her eyes relaxed. She knew why I was going home.
Got dressed up, and headed to at least see my inspiration in person. Laura Jane. The ride up was awesome, the awkward situations not there! Am I passing? At the show I even had a conversation about the NHL playoff race!!! Just fun all around.
Just before Against Me! took the stage, I used the ladies room, and as i was washing my hands…. I started to cry uncontrollably. The person that had really pushed me into coming out, and transitioning, was about to be in front of me. I made up my mind I was going to be front and center… no questions asked! I was crying hard… and a bunch of girls expressed their concern, I quietly muttered “I am trans, I am about to see the reason I came out.” That statement can go horribly wrong in the bathroom…. instead it was all love, and just amazing words of support. I continued to cry, left the bathroom… got a beer, and it was time.
Friends were close to the stage. So I made my way back. Drank my beer, madness started, and I did just what I wanted. Stood right in front of Laura Jane. Rocked out for hours, cried a lot. There she was. Lost my shoes, spent most of the concert barefoot (somehow they migrated back to me!) Rock rock rock. At one point Laura Jane stage dove! Kicked me in the head! Awesome 🙂
Lots of tears and rock later, the show was over. Friends I had made in the crowd found me, to hug me and smile. I was honestly, a little drunk, and more in shock than anything. Exhausted. We left, and I needed to find some smokes, so we went and found that. Then it was heading back to the truck to figure out the rest of the night.
I had hoped I could find Laura somewhere just to say hi or something…. well we were parked right by the back door.
I ended up meeting Laura, getting a little advise… (take care of yourself… ) one of the cutest, and purest looks of joy I have ever seen in anyones eyes… and the biggest hug I think I have ever had. And a really cute pic of my inspiration.
The journey came full circle. Thanks to Laura Jane, and a goofy girl named Connie, who will not let me die. I ended up in a packed steak and shake down town indy, smelling of sweat and beer… freezing… in a dress… and a smile that still hasn’t left my face… found some guacamole too… mmmm….
So, yah… Laura said something to me, that honestly, starts the next phase. Those are personal words, I may never share. The hard part is over. Everything has come full circle. With people like Gavin, Connie, Shaun, and countless others in my daily lives that are watching me win, and cheering me on…
Be careful…. you might all get what you want….. that teenager back, ready to set the world on fire. The bruises on my skin, and the smile on my face, and more importantly in my heart and soul after this weekend…. certainly suggest that!
I FUCKING LOVE YOU ALL!!!!
❤ K